There is a pendulum between being excellence and mediocrity, in which we all are swinging. Our films (remember Three Idiots), our leaders, our entrepreneurs- inspire us to run towards ‘excellence’, and very rightly so. We must strive towards excellence. But what until then? ‘Being Mediocre’ or ‘Mediocrity’ is shameful.
In our aspirational (and imaginary) race, we forget that mediocrity is very subjective. For most of us, mediocrity is a third party perspective. “Do people consider me mediocre?” “A mediocre student became a doctor and now works in his village.” He could be a student who cleared MBBS from the city but decided to go back to his roots, to serve his people. (I actually know someone like that.)
For example: “A mediocre student became a doctor and now works in his village.” In reality, he could be an average student who cleared MBBS from the city but decided to go back to his roots, to serve his people. Someone who wanted to study further, could not, and had to manage his father’s business or someone who wanted to run away from home but could not because there was a house to manage. Someone, who could write the ‘commercial’ kind of writing but lived their writing style. Someone who did good design work but did not get the credit.
For a comedian, a ‘9 to 9 job person’ from an ‘average’ company would look like a ‘mediocre’. To a popular comedian, the struggling comedian might look like a mediocre. A commercial actor might think of a struggling theatre actor as mediocre (and vice versa). To an entrepreneur, an employee in an MNC might look like a ‘corporate slave’. A corporate employee might see an entrepreneur as ‘wasting time’.
How are we to make a truce with these two things? The truth is, there’s no right or wrong because:
“Do people consider me mediocre?” is very different from “Am I mediocre?” If the person is fulfilling their primary motivation in the current situation, whether it is livelihood to take care of their families or pursuing their passion; it is in its own sense extraordinary. There is nothing mediocre in doing what you are supposed to do.
Be fired, get the axe, get sacked, pink slip, put out to pasture, call it quits, resign, retire, stand down, give in, hand a notice, vacate and bow out- all mean the same thing eventually. The market that it is right now, we have a lot of people around us- either they quit on their own or they were made to quit. Whether it is for a month for six months, there is a waiting period before you get into the next thing. And even though there is nothing shameful about it, we feel ashamed. Endless scrolls on the social media which were once a normal thing now become a pain in the ass. Everyone seems to be moving ahead, having a vacation, finding happiness, getting engaged or married or going on an international honeymoon- everyone, but you. And the worst part about it is that we let it become a big question mark.
Am I good enough?
Will I ever get a job?
What will I tell people?
Do I deserve this?
What did I do wrong here?
Why did this happen to only me?
How could they do this to ME?
While a little bit of contemplation on these questions is only natural and necessary but overthinking is dangerous. It makes you lazy, under confident, sad, under confident, regretful, under confident, aloof, attention seeking, etc.
The risk is that if you keep thinking, “I am useless”, you will internalise that thought and it will become a part of your mental framework. It kills you partly.
It is amusing to live in a world full of people who find silence uncomfortable. So just to fill the void of silence, they speak. Even when they need not, should not, must not. Even when they have no idea what needs to be said when. They gulp their discomfort while making you uncomfortable.
I think kids in school should have regular exercises where they are made to close their eyes and are made to hear the voice of silence. So then perhaps they will grow up as sane and responsible adults. That’s the only way I guess.
I eat one Mango a day. And I don’t like living a life of myths. So I found out that it’s actually a big myth that mangos are fattening. They are not.
(This girl is an amazing dancer. I follow her Youtube channel for the latest dance moves.)
There are many other links to such myth busters you can find online. Just by timing ‘Mango Health Benefits and Myths’.
There is even a yummy Mango Oats recipe that you can have for breakfast.
Only the people who can’t burn the calories of the mango they eat should quit eating mangoes. Rest everyone is fine.
The beauty of learning new languages is that you get to learn a lot about the cultures within. But no matter how much you try to learn a new language, its interpretation is always in your native language. I began learning Spanish on Duolingo about 2 weeks ago and there are surprisingly many words in Hindi that are similarly used in Spanish. No doubt, Hindi/Devanagari could have borrowed a lot of these words from Punjabi or Urdu. Perhaps there is a strange connection of both Hindi and Spanish fetching words from the same languages. I am yet to figure that out. Until then, look at these!