When Being Mediocre is Okay

There is a pendulum between being excellence and mediocrity, in which we all are swinging. Our films (remember Three Idiots), our leaders, our entrepreneurs- inspire us to run towards ‘excellence’, and very rightly so. We must strive towards excellence. But what until then? ‘Being Mediocre’ or ‘Mediocrity’ is shameful.

In our aspirational (and imaginary) race, we forget that mediocrity is very subjective. For most of us, mediocrity is a third party perspective. “Do people consider me mediocre?”  “A mediocre student became a doctor and now works in his village.” He could be a student who cleared MBBS from the city but decided to go back to his roots, to serve his people. (I actually know someone like that.)

For example: “A mediocre student became a doctor and now works in his village.” In reality, he could be an average student who cleared MBBS from the city but decided to go back to his roots, to serve his people. Someone who wanted to study further, could not, and had to manage his father’s business or someone who wanted to run away from home but could not because there was a house to manage. Someone, who could write the ‘commercial’ kind of writing but lived their writing style. Someone who did good design work but did not get the credit.

For a comedian, a ‘9 to 9 job person’ from an ‘average’ company would look like a ‘mediocre’. To a popular comedian, the struggling comedian might look like a  mediocre. A commercial actor might think of a struggling theatre actor as mediocre (and vice versa). To an entrepreneur, an employee in an MNC might look like a ‘corporate slave’. A corporate employee might see an entrepreneur as ‘wasting time’.

How are we to make a truce with these two things? The truth is, there’s no right or wrong because:

“Do people consider me mediocre?”  is very different from “Am I mediocre?” If the person is fulfilling their primary motivation in the current situation, whether it is livelihood to take care of their families or pursuing their passion; it is in its own sense extraordinary. There is nothing mediocre in doing what you are supposed to do.

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When Unemployment Tries to Kill You

Be fired, get the axe, get sacked, pink slip, put out to pasture, call it quits, resign, retire, stand down, give in, hand a notice, vacate and bow out- all mean the same thing eventually. The market that it is right now, we have a lot of people around us- either they quit on their own or they were made to quit. Whether it is for a month for six months, there is a waiting period before you get into the next thing. And even though there is nothing shameful about it, we feel ashamed. Endless scrolls on the social media which were once a normal thing now become a pain in the ass. Everyone seems to be moving ahead, having a vacation, finding happiness, getting engaged or married or going on an international honeymoon- everyone, but you. And the worst part about it is that we let it become a big question mark.

Am I good enough?

Will I ever get a job?

What will I tell people?

Do I deserve this?

What did I do wrong here?

Why did this happen to only me?

How could they do this to ME?

While a little bit of contemplation on these questions is only natural and necessary but overthinking is dangerous. It makes you lazy, under confident, sad, under confident, regretful, under confident, aloof, attention seeking, etc.

The risk is that if you keep thinking, “I am useless”, you will internalise that thought and it will become a part of your mental framework. It kills you partly.

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Shut Up When There’s Nothing To Say

It is amusing to live in a world full of people who find silence uncomfortable. So just to fill the void of silence, they speak. Even when they need not, should not, must not. Even when they have no idea what needs to be said when. They gulp their discomfort while making you uncomfortable.

I think kids in school should have regular exercises where they are made to close their eyes and are made to hear the voice of silence. So then perhaps they will grow up as sane and responsible adults. That’s the only way I guess.

Please Don’t Curse My Mango

Please Don’t Curse My Mango

I eat one Mango a day. And I don’t like living a life of myths. So I found out that it’s actually a big myth that mangos are fattening. They are not.

(This girl is an amazing dancer. I follow her Youtube channel for the latest dance moves.)


There are many other links to such myth busters you can find online. Just by timing ‘Mango Health Benefits and Myths’.

Mango Facts

  1. Each Mango has about 100 to 150 calories. We burn 150 calories after 2 km morning walk.
  2. One must have Mangos either mid morning or as an evening snack so that it doesn’t add calories to our meal. If you add it to your meal, make changes in the food intake.
  3. It is not fattening. It has potassium and fibre, which helps in digestion. Having one mango a day is great for weight loss.
  4. Don’t refrigerate until they are ripe. Ripe mangoes must be refrigerated. Never store in plastic bags. They need air.
  5. They contain only 1 gm fat. They are not fattening. Mango drinks loaded with sugar are. So next time the mango drink ad comes, “aam ka season”, remember how different mango and mango drinks are.

There is even a yummy Mango Oats recipe that you can have for breakfast.

Only the people who can’t burn the calories of the mango they eat should quit eating mangoes. Rest everyone is fine.

6 Surprisingly Similar Words in Hindi and Spanish

The beauty of learning new languages is that you get to learn a lot about the cultures within. But no matter how much you try to learn a new language, its interpretation is always in your native language. I began learning Spanish on Duolingo about 2 weeks ago and there are surprisingly many words in Hindi that are similarly used in Spanish. No doubt, Hindi/Devanagari could have borrowed a lot of these words from Punjabi or Urdu. Perhaps there is a strange connection of both Hindi and Spanish fetching words from the same languages. I am yet to figure that out. Until then, look at these!

Tu also means You in Spanish

The Hindi word Narangi (oranges) has a similar name in Spanish called ‘Naranja’ (pronounced as Naranya)

In Spanish, a shirt is called, ‘Camisa’ which is very similar to the Punjabi/Hindi counterpart called ‘Kameez’

I Don’t Know Who This Guy is, But he’s wearing a Camisa/Kameez

Ki Huva in Punjabi, Kya Hua in Hindi and Que Huba (pronounced as Ke) in Spanish is the same thing: What Happened

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The Energy Suckers Of Our Lives

The Energy Suckers Of Our Lives

Have you read the book Twilight? Or seen the movie? I’ve always had my doubts about the concept of Vampires- blood sucking creatures who can’t die. But it’s not unthinkable totally because even when we don’t have vampires around us, there are always people who suck out the positive energy from us.

Harry Potter also has the character of the Dementors that suck the happy memories out of a person’s mind. Interestingly, the dementors were made out of author JK Rowling’s personal experience with depression.

All of us, we have these over enthusiastic people who have no idea what they are talking or asking. As soon as they realise that we are a little down, they try to poke us and bring us even more down. They can’t see us happy either. They know our weaknesses and find utmost pleasure in pointing them out.

These people may have no sense of their own lives but want to peep into your house, family, computer screens, and what not.

They ask questions but they don’t want answers. They just want to see you not being able to answer.

Their observations are not observations that they are pointing out with a good intention. They are well-framed taunts.

They derive energy from sucking your energy away. Such are the energy suckers. Save yourself from them.

Technically, there’s no easy way out of such people. If you ignore them, they’ll keep going on until you notice them. If you notice them, they enjoy it. Either you kick them out of your life or learn to confront their idosyncracies. Challenge them logically while in public, answer back, be witty and make them feel exactly like they make you feel. In reality, these are the most insecure people. These are bullies, abusers and narcissists.

In reality, these are the most insecure people. These are bullies, abusers and narcissists. They will stop coming your way only when you know that they can’t intimidate you. To begin with, stop taking them seriously. Inside your mind, laugh at their pitiable situation. They are very sad people from within and can never be truly happy.

Either you kick them out of your life (which you can’t do if it is a family member or someone very close) or learn to confront their idiosyncracies. Challenge them logically while in public, answer back, be witty and make them feel exactly like they make you feel.

They will retaliate, say meaner things. But you don’t expect respect from such people, right? Only after you confront them, the energy suckers will begin losing their colour.

In the long term, energy suckers are better as far away from you.

14 Best Writing Prompts to Pour Your Heart Out

14 Best Writing Prompts to Pour Your Heart Out

Whether you are a writer or not, sometimes you need to write to let your emotions free. Writing also helps in understanding one’s own feelings and the mind-fuck that you are going through. If you are one of those, who is worried, “What if I write something and someone reads it?” Don’t worry. Put your diary in a locker. Or write it on the computer, a Microsoft Word doc can be saved easily. If you are a mobile user, there are lots of apps that come with a password. I use Evernote.

What is a Writing Prompt?

Sometimes when our mind is clogged or when we are suffering from a writer’s block, we need a push or an arousal to write. That’s where writing prompts come into the picture. They can be very random or very focused. An example of a random writing prompt:

You are stuck in the worst traffic jam in the world for two days, what happened?

In this article, we are talking about specific writing prompts that help you express what’s going in your mind or about something that is bothering you. Writing prompts can be very exhausting. You don’t have to write all of these in one go. Go for the ones you like, one at a time.

Someone profound once told me, too much of writing prompts can rip off the virginity of your writing. It’s true. So don’t use it seriously as a tool to write a new book. Use it to get over your block or to clear your mind.

Are There Any Rules?

There are no rules. Generally writing prompts don’t end up being usable works but they can sure be inspirations to something larger or they can be usable after edits. A better way of going about writing prompts is to take a stopwatch and sit for 10-15-20 minutes at a stretch and write whatever comes to your mind. There is no word limit. Make sure you don’t think about the topic beforehand. Your writing can be flawed here, you are allowed to make mistakes and not edit them.

Here are Some of the Writing Prompts That Could Help You

  1. Describe Yesterday, hour by hour
  2. Finish the sentence that begins with, “What I’ve always wanted to say is….”
  3. How do you feel about Love these days?
  4. Who people think you are, compared to who you know you are
  5. Your last cry
  6. What is a recent good thing you did that you are very proud of?
  7. Rant about something/someone you hate. Let loose.
  8. You are in an interview. Describe your weaknesses and what you’re doing to work upon them. 
  9. You bring someone back from the dead. Who is it? 
  10. A lie or a dirty secret you got away with but makes you feel guilty
  11. Write a list of things to do before you die
  12. What broke your heart
  13. 10 Things You love about your life
  14. Describe the face of someone you love
  15. Forgive yourself for…

Try at least one of these and let me know how it goes! You want more prompts, let me know! If this was helpful and you want to extend this, do not shy away from maintaining a Journal. I will soon compile a list of random writing prompts that help you widen your imagination and help as a good mental exercise before you begin writing.

Sometime in 2012, I was gifted a beautiful book of Writing Prompts by one of my friends. It’s called, “642 Things to Write About” by The San Fransisco Writers’ Grotto. It is a fat book full of prompts with empty spaces to write. This book was written in a single day with contributions of thirty-five different writers via emails, calls, etc. This story is important because it’s a lesson about the hidden potential within a single day.