Life, Death and the Choice

 

I am darkness
I have been inside the mind
And the corners of the heart
Of this person
Who decided to call it quits
Just yesterday.

I saw there was pain
Prolonged suffering
And healing that never happened
Perhaps a hug would have stopped him
Perhaps a walk would have
Or a talk could have.

I tried to wave at the homies
Even the friends
See me.. Save him from me
Love him, take him out
Love her, take her for therapy
But they couldn’t see me.
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Why We Suck Up to Our Abusers

Abuse is a word is generally associated with physical assault- whether sexual or not. Mental and emotional abuse is also an abuse. It is in no way less painful than the other. These people are leeches who become an incredible part of our system and then slowly try to erode it from within. These can be utterly selfish people who know how to get their work done. These species are both males and females, can be very cute, sweet, charming too. There are many ways of emotional abuse. This is not an exhaustive list.

Tools of Emotional Abuse

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Why Write a Journal

I was a whimsical kid. I had imaginary friends, superficial conversations where I’d hallucinate taking further the actual situations and I was super emotional. At one point of time (about 4th grade) our English teacher came to talk to us about Diary Writing. She said that one must maintain a diary where they pen down their thoughts. I thought it was a great idea to take the madness further. I used to write one diary every year. Luckily, I was the only child at home and no elder in the house was interested in peeping in my diary. I used to lock it in the locker anyway. I guess it all went down post 10th grade- the years when they ask you to grow up.

Growing up is partially an involuntary activity. Also, there’s no choice left after a point. So you crush the childhood behind you and get yourself into the world of adults. There are various points in life when we are unable to express ourselves to others and ourselves. When one loses the ability to communicate with oneself, that’s when you should begin writing.

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When You Have a Fight With Mom

It is a rather unfortunate scenario where you find it difficult to communicate in your own home. But it happens. Out of all of them, the most difficult to deal with can be a fight with your Mom. The tussle is more damaging because a major part of your day (and life) involves her.

You sleep with a heavy feeling in your chest and you might wake up fresh, perhaps in an illusion that it will be one of those normal mornings where you go around the house to find Mom and just when you find her- you tuck yourself into her and plant a kiss on her forehead.

But your face drops when you realise it is not – one of those days. You can’t be so quickly back on talking terms. You realise that no one else in the house seems to be bothered by this cold war. It’s just Mom and you; and the conversation, reasoning and rationalizing that you both are hallucinating within yourselves. There are tears. Continue reading “When You Have a Fight With Mom”

The Other Angle: “How To Care”

The Other Angle: “How To Care”

“My Grandpa passed away last week.”

“Oh, I am so sorry, what happened?”

“He had lung cancer.”

“Oh really! O my god, this is shocking! But he never smoked! Didn’t he always workout, had a healthy diet and was so sporty…How come!!!”

A Guide for Dummies: How to Care When They Are in a Low Phase

While mental health is still underestimated in our country, people still go through what life brings in for them. Whether it is about the death of a close person or losing a job or a break-up, we’ve been in all those situations and also on the other side of it. It is not enough to be concerned.

  1. Frame Your Question Before Asking: When someone tells you ‘I just lost my job due to demonetization’ if it is sudden, it obviously too much to take. But take a deep breath and think before you respond. Do not ask pointed questions, straight out of your mind. Don’t say one of these things:
  • “Oh. Sad! So what’s next?” If they just lost their job or quit, there are higher chances that they don’t know what’s next.
  • “I’m so sorry but overall demonetization has helped the country so much!” Nationalistic shit doesn’t help at this point.
  •  “What will happen now? Will you get the next job?” What choice does one have? One has to get a job or do something.
  • “Will your girl/boyfriend break up with you now?” No, they won’t. If they do, they don’t deserve me.
  • “Ah… it’s too easy to get a job these days.” No, it isn’t.

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What is that one thing you’d do if there were no constraints in life?

 

Author Susan Sontag's Illustration by BrainPickings
Author Susan Sontag’s Illustration by BrainPickings

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is that one thing you’d do if there were no constraints in life?

Nothing.

Really, nothing?

There is no “one thing”.

Then?

There are many things and I am going to do it all.

How?

At one point of time in life. Step by step, maze by maze, one by one. If not today, then some other day.

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Why Ellen Degeneres’s Medal of Freedom feels like a personal victory

Why Ellen Degeneres’s Medal of Freedom feels like a personal victory

She is a 58-year-old white American comedian who came out as a lesbian in America 20 years ago. At that point of time, she was at a peak of her career. But the people who know about her, have seen her grow and follow her ‘The Ellen Show’ would agree that it’s too petty an introduction for Ellen Degeneres.

 Yesterday, 23 November 2016, Ellen Degeneres won the Presidential Medal of Freedom with 21 other exemplary Americans like Robert Di Niro, Tom Hanks, Michael Jordan and the likes; people from different backgrounds and fields. This award was for ‘individuals who have made especially meritorious contributions to the security or national interests of the United States, to world peace or to cultural or other significant public or private endeavors,’ according to the White House.’
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